Don't Do What I Did

When I found out I was going to be a dad, I told myself, “I’ve got this.”

I figured I could muscle through anything. Long nights? No problem.
Crying fits? 

I’d tough it out.

Helping my partner recover? I'd figure it out on the fly.

I couldn’t have been more wrong.

No one warned me how much the first 30 days would stretch me — physically, mentally, emotionally.

The love was immediate. The exhaustion was instant.
And the mistakes... well, they showed up fast.

I didn’t prepare the right way.

I didn’t understand how quickly life would shift hour by hour, day by day.

I didn’t realize how important it was to take care of myself in order to show up for my wife and my newborn.

I thought willpower would be enough.

It wasn’t.

Looking back, I know I could have done better.

I could have been more patient when frustration boiled over.

I could have asked for help instead of silently grinding through.

I could have made it easier on myself — and by extension, easier on my family — if I had a system, a guide, and a brotherhood to lean on.

That’s why Harbor exists.

Harbor is the result of every mistake I made — built so you don't have to struggle the way I did.

If you’re an expecting dad, I know you probably have fears — even if you haven’t said them out loud yet:

• Will I be good enough?

• Will my relationship survive the chaos?

• Will I lose myself trying to do it all?

• Will I know what to do when it counts most?

You’re not alone.

And you don’t have to figure it out alone, either.

Harbor was built to give you a battle-tested roadmap for the first 30 days — and a community of dads who have your back.

Not because you're weak.

Because you're smart enough to know that strength isn’t about doing it alone. It's about being prepared.

Don't do what I did.

You can do it better.